Yes. My vision was impaired. I didn’t see it coming. And like a slap in the face; my feelings were hurt and disappointment was my new best friend.
That’s what happens when you wear rose-colored glasses.
What did I do wrong? Nothing and everything.
Let’s get realistic. Life without disappointment is simply unheard of. As humans, we have certain expectations and when things just don’t work the way we expect; disappointment sets in. And that’s where I’m at! Disappointed!
I tend to be somewhat of an optimist. Yes, I sometimes wear the rose-colored glasses and often focus on the positive rather than the negative. I try to see the good in all people. Is that so wrong? Yes and No.
It’s not wrong to want better. It’s not wrong to expect better; as long as you realize that not everyone thinks like you. Another persons level of expectation may not be set that high which usually leads to some form of disappointment.
Great expectations can cause even greater disappointments.
Just when you think you know someone, that’s when the unexpected happens. That’s when disappointment happens in a way you could never imagine.
Is it wrong for me to try to see the best in every person and in every situation? No. But I think I have a higher expectation of others because I am willing to go to that higher level for them. And that’s where I go wrong. The effort I put forth for others may not come back the same and then I realize, I’m not as important as I thought I was.
OUCH! THAT HURTS! 😦
So, what’s a person to do when they lose that rosy image of all they thought was good? Find the beauty in the disappointment. And here’s how:
- Use the weight of the disappointment as a stepping stone rather than a burden. Find one lesson learned, smile and move on.
- Take the rose-colored glass off periodically to get a different perspective. It’s ok to wear them; just don’t rely on them to always have an accurate view.
- Listen to that inner voice. It usually sees with a 20/20 vision.
- Accept it for what it is. No more or no less.
- Finding beauty in disappointment will bring clarity to life itself. As long as the pain remains temporary, the beauty lasts a lifetime.
- Lean on the One who will never disappoint. God knows your hurts. He’s the ultimate Pick-Me-Up! (Romans 5:5 NKJV)
Life’s disappointments have a way of teaching us to be flexible in our thinking. We can either focus on the problem or focus on the possibilities despite the problem. Life’s disappointments make us feel when we sometimes otherwise won’t or don’t. Emotions are explored and we live and learn. Life’s disappointments teach us acceptance. To accept the changes and move forward as a stronger person than before.
Some people come into our lives for just a season. They teach us, make us and mold us to be better. They can bring out the best in us through the disappointments. They remind us of our purpose. Our purpose is to always bring glory to God…even through our disappointments.
Until next time,
Live, Love & Learn
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